I know that summer is almost here! The kids will be home and ready for fun! I will be posting some ideas for summer fun, but today I want share some thoughts on helping children make good choices!
As a first grade teacher, my biggest concern was behavior–it’s hard to teach if they are not listening! I have learned much about children’s behavior over my 27 years of teaching The best approach I found was teaching children about making choices. I would like to share some of those thoughts with you — hoping they might help this summer and actually longer.
Our life is based on the choices we make. So teaching children to make good choices is very important! It’s really a life skill and not just a behavior technique!
With my class, I started out talking about choices and that with choices comes consequences! I asked what are good choices that you have made? What happened? How did it make you feel? Then I asked what are some bad choices that you have made? What happened? How did it make you feel? I wanted children to understand good choices make you feel good and have a good consequence. I especially wanted to children to understand bad choices make you feel bad and have a bad consequence.
After chatting about choices, I started recognizing children making good choices–“______, that was a good choice!” When I saw a child not making a good choice, I would ask them, “What kind of choice it that?” (I wanted the child to become aware of good and bad choices.) If he said a bad choice, I would ask him–“What could you do differently?” If he said a good choice, I would ask him — “How do you feel?” Hopefully, he would feel bad and then we could talk about we feel bad when we make a bad choice. Then I could ask, “What could you do differently so you would feel good?” It’s all about putting the responsibility on the child.
As time went on, I got to the point where I would say, “Make a better choice.”, smile and walk away.
It’s always important that children suffer the consequences of their bad choices–unless it’s harmful to them. Sometimes this is harder for the parent/parents. BUT CHILDREN REALLY DO WANT TO HAVE LIMITS, STRUCTURE, GUIDELINES. THIS IS WHEN THEY FEEL SAFE AND LOVED. THEY ARE LITTLE AND THEY DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO (ALTHOUGH THEY LIKE TO THINK THEY DO –LOL)!
You are teaching your child to make good choices and they can use this all through out their life–it really is a LIFE SKILL!!!
This was on my Facebook today and I really liked it! I hope you do too:)
If you would like more information or you want to ask me some questions, just let me know! Always happy to help!